LIVING with Cancer

About 6 years ago, my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer. It was the hardest thing we’ve ever been through and I honestly thought my life would never be the same again.  Here’s the crazy part: OUR LIVES are NOT the same, but they are so much better!!  Believe me, its hard to explain.  Getting a cancer diagnosis, and I know it wasn’t ME that got it, but I felt like it, can change your whole life.  Sometimes people assume the worst, but that was not the case for us.  Thankfully, my husband has the best attitude of anyone I know!  He would NOT accept his diagnosis when his Doctors gave him a year and a half to live. He said, ” I have kids, I’m husband, a friend.. and I have a LOT of living to do!!”. So that is exactly what we have done.   I couldn’t be more proud of him. The cancer he still has (they weren’t able to get it all), shockingly has not started grow yet.  I say yet, because, unfortunately, it will start grow. We just don’t know when. The doctors said usually it will grow again within 2 to 3 years – well, it’s been over 5!! He defeats all odds! He is my hero!

Don’t get me wrong, it has been hard.  This has been a journey that I would not want anyone to face.  But, how Darren faces it every morning is an amazing testimony to him.    Every 3 months, when he goes in for his MRI,  I keep thinking it will get easier, but they never do. Unfortunately, when it comes to brain cancer the further you get out the more likely it is to come back. But, we know that worrying doesn’t take away troubles, it takes away today’s peace.

We are now committed to sharing our story and hearing other’s stories.  We want to hear from you – join our LIVING with cancer group on Facebook today!  If you have cancer, are a care taker, or have been affected by it, then this group is for you!  We share how we stay optimistic with this diagnosis and want to create an environment where everyone is loved, supported, encouraged, and motivated to do the same!  CLICK here to join!

How does he do it?

1. He does NOT let cancer define him. The term “cancer survivor” does not apply to him. He does not just “survive” he “thrives”.
2. He wakes up every single morning with the most incredible attitude! It’s not that he doesn’t think about having cancer everyday, but he chooses to make it a great day!
3. When he is having an off day (forgets why he’s in a certain room or what he’s supposed to be doing or puts toothpaste in his hair instead of hair gel…happens a lot)…he laughs.
4. He eats healthy (80% of the time) and works out.
5. And most importantly, he laughs out loud EVERYDAY (sometimes all day).